Law of the Lid: Leadership ability determines a person’s level of effectiveness. – John Maxwell
As I facilitated a discussion of the law of the lid this week, all participants agreed the leadership lid shows up in many ways:
- Limiting beliefs
- The environment we live in
- Our inner circle
- Work culture
- The leadership style
The lid I have to deal with is self-management.
It is said the biggest success gap is the one between knowing and doing.
I remember an instance I was called to a late Friday afternoon meeting to talk about our upcoming deadline and the possibility of having to redo all the work thus far. As the meeting continued, I sensed myself getting frustrated by the attitude of the facilitator and the possibility of having to work all weekend to redo everything.
Halfway through the meeting, I asked a clarifying question hoping to release some of the frustration, how many more times are we going to redo work?
The reply: Until we do it right. This just took me over the edge, and even though I knew it was wrong, I stormed out of the room.
I’ve had my fair share of episodes like this one.
The aftermath? A broken reputation and a struggle to get people to listen to my ideas without thinking I’m complaining.
How have I raised this lid? Two ideas come to mind.
I. The Power of Questions
I have started the practice of asking myself, “what do I want to accomplish?”, “Will this reaction help me get there?”
II. The Others’ Perspective
I continually look for ways of paraphrasing what I heard and ask clarifying questions. This helps me identify the other person’s intentions.
I don’t have a perfect record with these practices but they have greatly increased my level of effectiveness.
What is limiting you? How are you dealing with it?