Arnold’s 6th and final rule of success is give something back.1
But is there success in giving back?
I know many people who live life thinking there’s only one pie for all of us and when it is gone it’s gone. For them, giving is a stupid idea because it means they have less.
I also know of others that confuse giving with trading. Meaning, they give expecting a return in full or better. They charge interest.
I’ve had the same mentality too.
- Why should I help that bad person?
- When is he going to pay for my lunch? I pay all the time.
- If I don’t stay close to the car in front of me, someone is going to cut in.
- Why should I help when I don’t know if they’ll appreciate it?
- Why should I help if I’m not going to be recognized for it?
- If I teach them what I know, they’ll take my job.
You can add to the list.
I’m happy to report that my mindset has changed for the better.
When I think about where I am in my career and what I did the 12 years since I started, I now see a clear link between my giving and my success. In clearer terms, my compensation has been directly impacted by what I have given.
No, this is not about my promotions being a direct result of the help I provided, but about me getting all the opportunities to get promotions because of the amount of giving I did. A giving that goes beyond the role description. A giving that looks to help someone else improve their performance.
It was my giving that allowed others to stand up for me when I made huge mistakes. My giving, indirectly, gave me a lot of second chances; which ultimately, gave me enough time to make it right.
I don’t have a solid answer to prove there is success in giving, but I can swear that giving has gotten me where I am today.
I end this series with a few quotes on giving. Let me know which one catches your attention.
- Let me tell you something, reaching out and helping people will bring you more satisfaction than anything else you have ever done. ~ Arnold Schwarzenegger
- There are two kinds of gratitude: the sudden kind we feel for what we receive, and the larger kind we feel for what we give. ~ Edward Arlington Robinson
- That’s what I consider true generosity. You give your all, and yet you always feel as if it costs you nothing. ~ Simone De Beauvoir
- What we do for ourselves dies with us. What we do for others and the world remains and is immortal. ~ Albert Pike